Marybeth Hicks at Townhall has an interesting piece on “reality TV” stars Jon and Kate Gosselin. What’s particularly interesting is this point:
Jon and Kate have learned the self-deceptive vocabulary that allows them to dissociate their marriage from their role as parents.
I did a quick check and confirmed that Hicks is Catholic, because I don’t think I’ve ever seen it phrased this way, but it really encapsulates the *consequence* of violating the Church’s teachings on sexuality.
If the marital act is both unitive and procreative, it makes sense that part of the consequence of severing those purposes is the severing of the link between marriage and parenting.
“Jon and Kate” raise the same dilemma as “Octomom”, and, a lesser extent, the Duggars.
It’s nice to see someone witnessing to large families and being “open to life,” yet it is also bizarre to have an openness to life come from in vitro fertilization (not meaning the Duggars, but the Gosselins and that other woman).
IVF is the opposite sin from contraception, taking the procreative purpose and leaving the unitive behind. It also, in the cases of these “fifteen minutes of fame” families, involves demanding it “right now.”
It’s really rather infuriating to hear people like Celine Dion or half the couples on A Baby Story refer to their IVF babies as “miracles.”
That’s not a “miracle.” That’s forcing God’s Hand! It’s the exact opposite of a miracle. My wife noticed in our parish’s prayer intention book that, sometime last year, someone wrote “For my daughter to successfully conceive a baby through IVF.”
Whatever the “extracurricular” activities of the Gosselins, they demonstrate a fundamental flaw in their reasoning from their use of IVF to begin with, and then turning their family life into “reality TV”. They’re creating these disjoints.
If you’ve got cameras on your household 24/7, it’s not surprising you’d appreciate a chance to slip out and escape, that you’d come to see your life as a fiction and hope for some reality. It’s probably the reason so many Hollywood celebrities’ marriages fail.
On Monday night’s show, in separate couch chats, Jon and Kate took pains to express their commitment to their children’s happiness regardless of their future together. The kids come first, or so they said. Unfortunately, this couple thinks happiness is about birthday parties with piñatas and a magician.